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Why am I getting wedding planning overwhelm? (and how to stay chill)

Why do they say wedding planning is so stressful?

Planning a wedding is just planning a big party, right?

It should be fun, exciting, and all about you!

So why do people say that wedding planning is more stressful than Britney’s year of 2007?

Even in the midst of loved-up engagement bliss, there are some wedding-related stresses that can be so sneaky, you can’t even see them coming. Before you think you’ve failed at the whole wedding planning thing, because this isn’t actually shaping-up to be the most ‘magical time of your life’, I’m here to let you know that wedding planning stress is completely normal.

Here, I will show you how to get from wedding blues to bridal muse…

Great Expectations

Growing up, you would have noticed society makes, not a big deal about getting married, it’s more like a MASSIVE deal about getting married. Who hasn’t heard: “Your wedding day will be ‘the best day of your life’.”

So what if something goes wrong? What if your ‘perfect day’ isn’t completely, well, perfect?

It’s normal to start feeling frustrated that you can’t control everything. It’s completely normal to get nervous that things might go wrong.

On the other hand, it’s also inevitable that things will go wrong. I don’t mean that a major catastrophe is likely to completely ruin your day, but little glitches and disappointments will happen that will be entirely out of your control. If you think your wedding day has to be perfect, you are likely putting a bit too much pressure on yourself. So how to skip the stress?

Re-phrase

Rather than think: ‘my wedding has to be perfect’, re-phrase to something like: ‘my wedding will be a wonderful celebration of our love’, or ‘my wedding will be such a special day’.

Step away from the Wedding Planning

If you’re starting to feel like the pressure is too much, step away from planning your wedding for a little while. Maybe you need a week or two off, where you can concentrate on other things you love doing.

‘I was cursed with expensive taste and a low budget’

Weddings are expensive.

Weddings you see on Instagram and Pinterest are ridiculously expensive.

It’s easy to feel the pressure (especially after a couple of minutes on social media) that your wedding should look a certain way for fear that it won’t be good enough. The images you are scrolling through are weddings of celebrities and the rich-elite; or styled shoots showing wedding professionals’ most elaborate work.

Remember 99.9% of the population can’t afford these weddings either.

Before you start wondering if your fiancé will really mind paying off the florist bill for the first 30 years of married life, stop the stress now:

Prioritise

Make a list of wedding priorities. You will be able to see where you want to splurge and where you can choose cheaper options that will keep within your budget.

Make a Budget

Speaking of budgets… Create a wedding budget. You will feel so much more in control when you know exactly how you are spending your money and what you need to spend it on.

Get Inspired

Take inspiration from the social media images you love and ask your wedding vendors how you get the look for your budget.

Wedding stress is all relative

I was already a wedding planner before I got engaged. I had helped many couples prepare for their wedding day, which at times would include helping brides with difficult family dynamics. This was just a normal part of wedding planning for me- until it came to my own wedding and my own family!

Whatever family you are in, there are bound to be a few tricky relationships.  Whether they are your parents or the outer-reaches of distant relatives it can feel personal and stressful having to think about including them in your wedding plans. So how can you skip this stress?

Elope! (Just joking …. maybe).

Delegate

If you have a particular family member who you have to invite but might cause you any sort of stress, try to delegate another family member to ‘look after’ them during the wedding planning and on the wedding day.

Keep the guest list small

Do you really have to invite them? If the thought of inviting fifty cousins gives you the heebie-jeebies, maybe a small wedding suits you better. (You can always have a bigger backyard celebration party after your special day).

Catch up for coffee

A problem shared really is a problem halved. If your family- or any part of wedding planning is getting to you, find a friend, grab a coffee and talk about it.

Do you have any other tips on how you have dealt with any wedding planning worries? I would love to hear about them! Leave a comment or contact me with any questions you might have.

Happy Wedding Planning!

Jen xx

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Quick and (practically) free stress busters for busy brides

If you’re planning a wedding and trying to ‘live life’ at the same time it’s easy to feel physically and emotionally burnt-out. These simple stress-busting ideas will have you feeling that just-engaged-bliss in half an hour or less!

 

Mini Spa Routine

We are so busy this time of year the first thing we strike off the priority list is ourselves. Grab an hour, head to the bathroom and lock the door! Not only will get a temporary time-out, you will feel put-together and ready to handle anything the season can throw at you.

 

Take a Walk

Just getting out and going for a walk can do wonders for your perspective. You can walk for as little or as long as you want- and it doesn’t cost a thing! Walking is perfect for removing yourself from what’s stressing you and getting those happy endorphins pumping!

 

Make a List

If you feel like you have a hundred things running around your head, write them all down. Once all your to-dos are out of your head and on the paper you won’t feel as pressured to remember all the things you have to do- and hopefully it won’t look half as bad either.

Phone a Friend

Planning a wedding can be an emotional rollercoaster. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, chat it out with someone.

 

Light Candles

Instead of harsh electric lights, light some candles. Just creating a calming ambience can help you find your Zen.

 

Massage

If you can’t afford a professional to iron out the knots in your shoulders, I’m sure your fiancé would be more than willing to assist- especially if you offer to reciprocate!

 

Breathe

Close your eyes and take some deep breaths, ensuring you breath out all the air in your lungs. It’s great for centering yourself and detoxing any stale air.

Laughing Out Loud

Laughing gives those fabulous ‘happy endorphins’ easing your tension. Watch a comedy, make a date with your funniest friends or even do a You Tube search. A good belly laugh will leave you wondering why you were feeling stressed out at all.